Monday, November 16, 2009

Rip Off The Band Aid


I have had my fair share of relationships okay? And you know what I've learned, the hard way I might add. I've learned that you can't jusy prolong a break up. By that I mean, telling the person I want to break up, or I think we need a 'break'. You know why you shouldn't do this? Because that's when they stick it to you. They try to feed you a basket of lies with chocolate chip cookies. Your falling, not only for the cookies, but for those pathetic lies too! And you know what the worst part is? The lies, get to you because of GUILT! Ugh I hate guilt, when I say guilt I mean the thoughts that fly into your head.

Thoughts like, "Oh well he(or she) needs me", "We've been through soo much", "I think he might do something crazy"....And the lies that they tell you are these, "But I can make this better". No you can't. Number one lie: "I love you so much". Well you sure have an odd way of showing it. "I've done so much for you". No that was me helping you. "I thought we were going to get married?" Not anymore. And it's sad cause we fall for this bullshit, at least I do, and those lies were fed to me, AND the guilt took over. Why waste precious time on losers? Why give someone your all when you don't get theirs in return?

If your unhappy they obviously aren't doing it for you. For instance if your really not into it anymore, you can't, well you shouldn't, try to make it work. A relationship shouldn't be like that. You shouldn't have to 'make it work' it just should, in my opinion at least.

I have done this before. It gets old so fast, and you only further your unhappiness by doing it. Haha. I hate it. Why can't men and women just let go? Get over it. See ya, bye bye, FINALLY! I mean I understand that you 'love' that person but sometimes you can't get the 'fairy tale wedding'. I don't want one anyways; every fairy tale ends at some point right? Haha.

Matter of fact, I'm in one of those dammed relationships at the moment. It is ridiculous. I wish I could just say, "We're not compatible, I think it's best if we go our seperate ways." But no. I can't do that, well I can, but I won't. So upsetting to hold on to something that's not even worth it. What's wrong with us people that have this problem? Hm? I always try to find the 'good' in people. But what if the bad beats the good? Hopefully soon I can rip off this itchy, sticky, annoying band aid.

And if you have answers, or even opinions, to the questions I've asked, PLEASE feel free to state them (:
I could use some advice.

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2 comments: on "Rip Off The Band Aid"

Anonymous said...

I have that same problem!
I'm with a guy that I really, really REALLY shouldn't be with! Not that he's a bad guy or anything, I just don't feel "it" like he does.
So, your not alone! I can't seem to break up with him because of how much he likes me! You'd think 17 years of life would teach me how to abide with these things. But, no.

Nice blog by the way :) You seem like an entertaining person.

Jennifer said...

Real nice point. Most people prolong a break up either for their own reason (don't want to be alone) and so on. Or maybe their still trying to think things through. No matter what the case is, if you feel in your heart things are over then just end it. because trying to hold on to someone just makes things harder for that person.

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