Afraid Of The What-If's

What if I don't get that job? What if I don't get a new car? What if he cheats on me? What if I'm pregnant? What if, what if can go on forever. Now who in their right mind can live life and think about those what ifs? Well I know someone just like that. Let's call him, James, like James Bond. Mkay, so James sits there and all he wonders about, well I'm sure that's not all he wonders about, but anyway he let's those stinky little what if's effect him in every aspect of life. For some examples, well if I go to the war, what if I die? What if you find someone else, what if you forget about me? What if, what if. Geez, I really can not stand those what ifs. Say I give this 100%, what if you let me down, what if you grow up, what if you realize I'm not what you want, once again. My goodness I don't know how one person can sit there and think about all the what if's that are possible. I know it might just be being cautious, I am very cautious. Sometimes however, you've got to be optimistic, have faith, and just simply let go. Take a leap. Try it ya know? I mean if I need something from someone and I sit there and think, well what if they say no? Then they say no. Same concept as I don't like seafood, ever had it? No.... Well how do you know you don't absoultely love it then? I don't know. Well TRY IT! But I'm just saying. I can go on forever and think about the what ifs. For James sadly I think it's holding up his life, really I think that's what it is. It's just my opinion though. I feel like he might be scared. Of what? I'm not sure exactly. Maybe he thinks he's not good at anything, maybe it's hard for him to want to get on with his life. Maybe he still wishes to be a kid. Who knows? I don't. One thing I've tried telling poor James, is that you can't just think about the what ifs. You need to understand and except that everything you want in life is not going to happen or turn out how you think it should. I've accepted it, I deal with it because I have to. Life has proven to be in my very short time of living that you can't always get what you want, or thing's don't always go according to plan. I want to help him with that. But he just doesn't know how to take advice and say thanks. I understand people, most the time have to do things on their own to understand this stuff, I'm one of them, you tell me advice I'll keep it in mind then find out for myself. See that's why I want to help him, cause I dealt with it and it's not fun nor easy. BUT, BUT, BUT I am thankful I did do it myself and not just listen to the advice, it's made me who I am today, in some ways. Hm, should I just let him make all these bad mistakes? Well I don't know. I wish there was something I can do to get those what ifs out of his mind. We'll see how it goes. I just don't want him, or anybody really, to let life slip by, just because of the what ifs.